Well apparently eating more and working out less is working for me! LOL. Hopped on the scale and I'm 187.5!!! CRAZY! I'm much less sore today and have definitely given my body a break - maybe its released some water it was hanging on to to repair my poor muscles. It will be interesting to see where the scale moves after tonight's 'tempo' run practice. I'm looking forward to working out and also meeting some new people!
Ok - so the question: My newly divorced friend, had a guy come up to her in a bar and really liked her. They met for lunch the following day, they've kissed, they met out late another time kissed more, he made her dinner at his house once and they spent the day together. Late one night she got very loaded, went to his house without intentions and they ended up sleeping together - both were loaded and he was definitely the one who pursued the opportunity (prior to that she kind of felt like the one making all the first moves, giving positive signals, etc.). After that - he went on a trip - they didn't talk/text much, which was fine. Then on another night - she stopped by his house after going out with friends sort of like the week before- she called his ph while standing at his front door, he answered the ph but he was sleeping and little loaded himself. When he answered, she said "let me in" and she doesn't remember what he said after that or if he hung up. She kept calling him immediately after that and he didn't answer. Ultimately, he didn't answer the ph and she left. She apologized the next day in text, chalked it up to "acting really stupid, really late and I'm sorry about that." He replied "no worries" and hasn't texted her since. Its been 2 weeks. Just a few nights prior to that, he was flirtatious and normal.
I know it sounds otherwise, but she's NOT one to sleep around. She worried he thinks that and they just had such an intense connection and she'd not been with anyone since her husband. She really liked this guy and is so hurt and disappointed at the sudden and complete LACK of texting/conversation after about 4 weeks of talking everyday. He's a very earthy/'spiritual' type person and very straight forward with people which is why she's confused he didn't just call it off and be done with it. She knows he's done that with other women. She wants to text him this: "Hey there, I fully realize I'm breaking protocol by texting you, but I don't care about protocol and as you already know make my own rules anyway. I know I chose not to meet anyone new until you and that makes me new to all of this/this world of meeting people. I'm simply not that 'casual' and it just seems odd to not at least say I wish you well and wish much peace to you on your path."
What do you think? Does she lose her dignity or does she seem needy for doing this? Should she just not text him at all and let it go? She says she just doesn't understand and she feels like she needs to put it out there for herself. Its likely she's going to see him 'out' as they frequent some of the same places occasionally and kind of wants the last word and to take the 'mature' approach.
I don't think he's temporarily withdrawing - I think the challenge is over and so he's no longer interested. Which completely sucks. I met him and really thought he was different too. I definitely liked his honestly and gentle nature but I'm also confused by his behavior. If she's never going to 'date' him again, what's the harm in her putting that out there and looking like the strong one - not weak or crushed by his behavior (even though I know she is really disappointed).