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Monday, March 14, 2011

OK, I shook it off and I've got it back together

Ok, I'm back on my game, I'm seeing the light, I'm ready to fight.  I think I've been dealing with issues - grieving over the loss of my job.  I'd already gone through denial very quickly - then angry, bargaining for sure, and I think the last few weeks to a month have been a sort of depression.  I just couldn't seem to get it together, couldn't motivate myself to do anything.  Nothing seemed appealing and I cooked a lot of comfort foods.  Now, I'm more in the acceptance mode.  I think that's a good thing - I'm getting my mojo back.  

Kubler-Ross defines the grieving stages as follows:

Denial - "I feel fine."; "This can't be happening, not to me."  Denial is usually only a temporary defense for the individual. 

Anger -"Why me? It's not fair!"; "How can this happen to me?"; "Who is to blame?"  Once in the second stage, the individual recognizes that denial cannot continue. Because of anger, the person is very difficult to care for due to misplaced feelings of rage and envy.

Bargaining -  (I added this:  I could do this job, a project manager job, a consultant job, etc.)

Depression - "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"

Acceptance - "It's going to be okay."; "I can't fight it, I may as well prepare for it."

Kübler-Ross originally applied these stages to people suffering from terminal illness, later to any form of catastrophic personal loss (job, income, freedom). This may also include significant life events such as the death of a loved one, divorce, drug addiction, the onset of a disease or chronic illness, an  infertility diagnosis, as well many tragedies and disasters.

I'm ready to work out again.  Ready to see the scale move.  I read your blogs and your kind comments of support and THAT motivates me!  Thank you everyone for the kind supportive comments -  I appreciate it so very much!!


  1. Awesome analogy! I am glad you are ready again...go for it!!!

  2. um.. that's my life!.. glad you are in a good place now :)


  4. I've missed you. I'm happy to hear you're feeling better! xoxo

  5. I know how you feel! I just lost my job in December and my boyfriend right after (he broke up with me) and I went through all those feelings. Good luck to you!

  6. I'm glad to hear you're feeling better.

  7. It feels good when you start climbing out, no? I am glad you are shaking it off I am as well but the layers are deep. Keep fighting!

  8. SO glad to hear from you! Keep the mojo flowing. You sound like you are in a much better place!


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